Thursday, October 29, 2009
My Brother Passed Away
On Tuesday evening, my brother Michael (the oldest boy) passed away in CHOC Hospital due to complications to the flu.
My brother Daniel was also in ICU at the time, and is still currently there. Christopher was taken in to the hospital around midnight that night because he started to look sick and the doctors at the hospital wanted to make sure we brought him in before it was too late. He is currently still in the hospital. They will keep in the hospital until he is able to handle all of his regular feedings.
So, if you could say a prayer for my parents and brothers that would be amazing.
Michael is in the red chair, Daniel in the purple chair, Christopher in the blue chair, and Simon is in the green chair.
God Bless
Friday, October 23, 2009
A World United
My husband and I just arrived home from a trip to Spain. We were there for his business, part of which was attending the largest pro-life event in Spain's history. It was a huge event, where our friend, Eduardo Verastegui spoke to 2 million people marching for the "derecho de vida" (right to life) in Spain. The streets of Madrid were absolutely jam packed with young, old, religious, and lay people declaring their desire for an abortion free country. It was beautiful.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
God Knows Best
"He who asks of God in faith things needed for this life is sometimes mercifully heard and sometimes mercifully not heard. For the physician knows better than the patient what will avail for the sick man."
Friday, October 16, 2009
No photo for this one!
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Praying before Work
However, I have also recently stumbled upon a prayer book that has a prayer called "Prayer before Working". It was then that I realized how important it is to start of your work day praying. It makes doing any kind of job worthwhile.
Here is the prayer:
Prayer Before Working
We beseech Thee, O Lord, to direct our actions by Thy holy inspirations, and carry them on by Thy gracious assistance, that every prayer and work of ours may begin always from Thee, and through Thee be happily ended. Amen.
St. Joseph.
Pray for us.
For those of us who are also still students, this prayer book also has a prayer called "Prayer before Study". I find this prayer to also help me stay focused on the fact that the reason I am able to learn and go to school is through the Grace of God.
Here is the prayer:
Prayer Before Study (adaptation from St. Thomas Aquinas)
Ineffable Creator, Thou art called the true font of light and wisdom, and the origin of all things. Pour forth a ray of Thy brightness into the darkened places of my mind; disperse from my soul the twofold darkness into which I was born: sin and ignorance.
Grant me keenness of mind, capacity to remember, skill in learning, insight to interpret, and eloquence in speech.
May Thou guide the beginning of my study, direct its progress, and bring it to completion.
Through Christ our Lord. Amen.
Holy Mary, Seat of Wisdom.
Pray for us.
Sunday, October 11, 2009
opposite of anger
Catholics Come Home
In church a couple Sundays ago they played a sample of some commercials that they are going to show in a couple months around the Seattle area. At the end of it everyone was tearing up, even our priest who had shown the video at least 3 other times that weekend.
It was a video from "Catholics Come Home." So beautiful! Ok - it's not working to embed it, so click here: http://www.catholicscomehome.org/epic/epic120.phtml
Turns out the largest religious group in the US after Catholics is fallen away Catholics. (Where is our sticking power people?) So these videos are designed to go out into TV land and get them back.
I guess they did this campaign in Phoenix and 90,000 Catholic came back. 90,000! That's enough to have to start new parishes just to deal with them all!
So prayers that we get all the resources needed to pull this off. And check out the website: http://www.catholicscomehome.org
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Help for Pregnant College Students
Just wanted to share a great article about a joint venture initiative by Belmont Abbey College in Belmont N.C. and a crisis pregnancy center called Room at the Inn. Together they have created the first campus-based maternity and after-care residence for pregnant college students. What an awesome model for other Catholic Universities!
Click here to read the article.
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
The Importance of Living a Moral Life
Unlike what society tries to tell us, there are not many different moralities. There is one truth and one morality. We know this because God is the basis for morality and because God does not change, neither does morality. As a follower of Christ, it is important to understand that it is Christ that we should center our lives around. There is no way that we can separate our actions from the morality that we know is true. If we act one way, that is the way we are. We are the choices we make.
Morality is linked with happiness and cannot be separated from it. Secular society tends to see morality and rules as restricting. The reason they feel this way is because in order to be a moral person, sometimes we must sacrifice immediate goods and wants in order to reach something higher and better for us in the long term. It is important that we recognize that morality answers the question “What should I do” and therefore we realize that morality is not about a list of wrongs and rights, but an opportunity for us to choose something that is higher than what our humanity alone can allow us to achieve. Most people feel that morality is about what we cannot do. They expect that all moral choices involve suffering and sadness. What most people miss, is that morality is not choosing the hardest thing possible. It is about choosing the right thing. Sometimes, choosing the right thing initially might be difficult or uncomfortable. Other times, it is the most exciting, breathtaking moment. Either way, choosing what is right ends up making us the happiest ten times out of ten.
Most of the time people sum up morality into a few subjects; abortion, homosexuality, religion, and abstinence. Although these are decisions that are very obviously moral dilemmas, they are not the only moral situations that we experience in our lives. Everyday we make decisions that lead us towards our final end. Each decision we make changes the distance between us and our goal, heaven. Sometimes, we make decisions that bring us giant steps towards our final goal. However, other times we might not be making much process because we are not choosing what is in our best interest. It is in the simple decisions that we are able to form the habits that will be able to help us when the bigger problems come towards us.
Virtues are extremely important. There is one main reason for this; virtues are habits. They are the good habits. The ones that work with reason and attempt to perfect our free will so that choosing what will lead us to our highest goal will become what is most natural to us. Building up virtues allows our sensitive appetites not to have power over us. Virtues are dependent on the fact that our intellectual virtues are learned through wisdom, knowledge, and understanding of the truth and moral life. Because we are creatures of habits, building positive habits that lead to becoming a person of virtue is one of the most important lessons that we can learn. If we are able to become completely virtuous, choosing the right choice would be the only reasonable choice to make.
Just the way that virtues are so crucial to keeping a virtuous moral life, vices are an obstacle to leading a virtuous moral life. Similar to virtues, vices are also formed through habits, however these habits overpower the reason instead of working with reason to make decisions. Although vices are habits that work against our final goal, the human inclination to be good is always there and therefore allows every person to always have hope. However, when you sin, it is like your soul gets sick. It increases the difficulty for one to stay away from sin. God's punishment for sin is that He allows for us to have it, and enjoy at the time. Once you have experienced it, it makes it difficult for you to withhold the next time. Similarly, sin breeds sin. People do not want to be alone in their sin. This is why when one sibling gets in trouble, they spend their time-out trying to get the rest of their siblings in trouble as well so they do not have to go through it alone.
Moral virtues depend on the intellect. Intellect is also a habit. This habit helps us to understand what is happening and understand the truth. But just like every habit, in order to keep this habit we must use it often. If we cannot understand what is good because we are not practicing this virtue, it can lead to vices. Wisdom is one of the highest intellectual virtues because it is so important in informing the will and therefore informing our reason. It is also through knowledge that we are able to understand how all things lead to God. If we do not continue to try to be informed, our intellect will not be able to inform our reason and will allow ourselves to become weak and more prone to vices.
It is important to understand the difference between formally evil acts and materially evil ones. A material acts are the acts in and of themselves. It asks question about the actual events that occurred in relation to the act. Formal acts are the factors involved in committing the act. Here we must ask the questions relating to the intention and the knowledge that the person committing the acts was experiencing at the time the act was committed. Because of this, an act could be materially wrong but not formally wrong. Similarly, doing something materially right, could not be formally right because of the intention that it is done with.
The will consists of commonsense, intention, choice, deliberation and consent. The will makes decisions based off of it's intellect and understanding of the situation at hand. The will's movements are internal and external. Internally, the intellect moves itself. Externally, the will is drawn to the good. However, the will is not always drawn to the highest good. At some points, the will suffices with the lower good. We should always be striving to align our will towards God because God is our ultimate good. The intention is also crucial to understanding the actions that the will chooses. It can influence the end of the action and the means that one uses in order to get to the end. The value of a choice depends on the object one is choosing. Deliberation is important because it allows us to search for the answer and be able to act with knowledge. Different choices rely on different amounts of deliberation. The amount of time spent on deliberation for an action should relate directly to the intensity of the decision. Finally, consent is crucial to the choice. One must allow themselves to commit the action in order for them to be help responsible for that action.
The passions are critical to the understanding of the moral life because they are known from their experiences. While emotions and feelings are vague, passions are precise. Unlike society's view that passions are the be-all and end-all, passions are not good or evil in and of themselves. They can lead to virtues or vices, but they are neutral. Our concupiscible passions are the ones that have a sensible good or evil. They are love, hate, desire, aversion, pleasure, and sadness. While are irascible passions are the passions that we have difficulty in attainting. These passions are hope, despair, fear, and anger. It is important to understand that our passions are important to be involved in our intellect. However, our intellect should direct our passions to the highest goods. Because our passions are neutral, it is important that we make sure our intellect guides our passions to the highest moral good.
The cardinal virtues are prudence, temperance, fortitude, and justice. Prudence allows us to use practical reason when trying to decide the true good in each circumstance. Justice is important because it gives what is due to our neighbor. In justice, we are called to respect each human being. Justice is a habit that is very important to keep a solid grip on because it is a habitual way of thinking. Temperance guides our concupiscible passions and balances our emotions. “It ensures the will's mastery over instincts and keeps desires with the limits of what is honorable” according to CCC 1809. Fortitude, then, deals with and moderates our irascible passions. It “enables ones to conquer fear of death, and to face trials and persecutions.” (CCC 1808) This is important because without using temperance and fortitude we can easily loose control of our passions.
Although our society seems to think that conscience is something you feel when you are about to make a decision about something that is important, conscience literally means with knowledge. From society's point of view, it is often linked to the idea that you should listen to your heart. However, the church clearly shows that conscience means to make a decision with the knowledge that you are given. There are three functions of a conscience. First, you must identify what the action is from a moral viewpoint. Then, you must identify whether an act is a good act or an evil act. Finally, you must evaluate the action. The only way that society can say that you should always follow your conscience is if your conscience is well informed and properly raised.
Grace is given to us through the theological virtues. The three theological virtues are faith, hope, and love. The grace that God gives us allows us to succeed. He gives us exactly what we need at every part of our life so that we can choose to become closer to Him. It is important that we recognize that grace is given to us in order to make us whole again. Without grace, it is impossible for us to survive in this world. Unlike the cardinal graces that are only acquired through practice, God's grace and theological virtues are given to us as a gift to aide us in our decisions and throughout our experiences so that we are able to be united to Christ. However, because of God's undying love for us, He allows us to reject those virtues and turn our back on Him. However, this always leads to sadness and not happiness.
The ten commandments are important to society. The reason God gives us these laws is not to hinder us or to not allow us to enjoy our time here on earth. He gives us these laws because it is important for us to realize that if we commit theses acts and do not follow the commandments, we will be the ones hurt in the end because doing these things leads to sadness. Just like every society, we need laws in order to make sure that our society's citizens can lead good, healthy, moral lives. People often feel that laws take away from one's freedom. However, there is no true freedom in choosing against God's laws. Doing so will only lead to slavery. The ten commandments are a summary of the entire moral law.
The beatitudes are also important. It is interesting to know that each of the beatitudes leads to the next one. If you follow the first of the beatitude, and are poor in spirit, then you will mourn because you know that you cannot live on your own. One can continue to see throughout the entire beatitudes how each one leads to the next. That is why it ends that those who follow these commands will be in the kingdom of God. Interestingly, the beatitudes are follow by what is known as the antitheses. These talk about the ten commandments. Jesus in the new covenant takes the commandments another step higher. For example, killing someone emotionally with one's anger is also under the commandment that you shall not kill.
God is love. When you love someone, you want to do what they ask of you because that makes them happy. The same goes for Christ's commandments. As christians, we should want to follow the commandments because Christ tells us to follow them for our own good. Because He tells us this, and we love Him, it is only right that we would follow the commandments that He gives to us. Through this class, I was able to understand more clearly why God gives us laws. Unlike society teaches us, the only way to be free is to know your purpose and our purpose to be united with God in heaven. Therefore, the only way that we can find true freedom and happiness is if we follow what Christ teaches to us and follow the laws that He gives us. If He did not love us, He would not give us laws that lead us to Him. But, in His overpowering love, He guides us to Himself so that we can achieve our purpose in life.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Weddings
Well we just got back from a wedding in LA. This was the first wedding that I actually had to leave early (and not because of the babies!). It was at the old LA cathedral - they just refinished the floors, took out the altar (and St. Vibiana herself) and left everything a hollow shell. I fully realize that the church was decommissioned, but something just felt so wrong. We were tempted to drive everyone out of the Temple just like Jesus. I know there are several other Christian churches that have been transformed into restaurants/event venues, but something about knowing that Jesus' true presence used to be there just irked at me.